Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Max Lucado Devotion

Team Up
by Max Lucado

In 1976 tremors devastated the highland of Guatemala. Thousands of people were killed, and tens of thousands were left homeless. A philanthropist offered to sponsor a relief team from our college. This flyer was posted in our dormitory: "Needed: students willing to use their spring break to build cinder block homes in Quetzaltenango." I applied, was accepted, and began attending the orientation sessions.

There were twelve of us in all. Mostly ministry students. All of us, it seemed, loved to discuss theology. We were young enough in our faith to believe we knew all the answers. This made for lively discussions. We bantered about a covey of controversies. I can't remember the list. It likely included the usual suspects of charismatic gifts, end times, worship styles, and church strategy. By the time we reached Guatemala, we'd covered the controversies and revealed our true colors. I'd discerned the faithful from the infidels, the healthy from the heretics. I knew who was in and who was out.

But all of that was soon forgotten. The destruction from the earthquake dwarfed our differences. Entire villages had been leveled. Children were wandering through the rubble. Long lines of wounded people awaited medical attention. Our opinions seemed suddenly petty. The disaster demanded teamwork. The challenge created a team.

The task turned rivals into partners. I remember one fellow in particular. He and I had distinctly different opinions regarding the styles of worship music. I—the open minded, relevant thinker—favored contemporary, upbeat music. He—the stodgy, close-minded caveman—preferred hymns and hymnals. Yet when stacking bricks for houses, guess who worked shoulder to shoulder? As we did, we began to sing together. We sang old songs and new, slow and fast. Only later did the irony of it dawn on me. Our common concern gave us a common song.

What if the missing ingredient for changing the world is teamwork? "When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action. And when two or three of you are together because of me, you can be sure that I'll be there" (Matt. 18:19-20 MSG).

This is an astounding promise. When believers agree, Jesus takes notice, shows up, and hears our prayers.

And when believers disagree? Can we return to my Guatemalan memory for a moment?

Suppose our group had clustered according to opinions. Divided according to doctrines. If we had made unanimity a prerequisite for partnership, can you imagine the consequences? We wouldn't have accomplished anything. When worker divide, it is the suffering who suffer most.

They've suffered enough, don't you think? The Jerusalem church found a way to work together. They found common ground in the death, burial, resurrection of Christ. Because they did, lives were changed.

And as you and I do, the same will happen.

Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:
If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!
(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV)

O Lord, whenever I address you as "ourFather," cause me to remember that I have been called to be part of a holy community. You did not call me to remain in isolation but placed me in the body of Christ, along with every other believer in Jesus throughout the world in every age. Please give me the grace to act on the truth that you created us to grow as a team, to work as a team, to worship as a team, and to weep and laugh and live as a team. Grant me the wisdom and the strength to partner with you and with my brothers and sisters in Christ to meet the needs you place before us. For Jesus' sake and in his name I pray, amen.

From Outlive Your Life: You Were Made to Make a Difference
Copyright (Thomas Nelson, 2010) Max Lucado

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

The Wegman boys

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Ethan or uncle Philip??????

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The Sand Ceremony

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The blended sand

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New brothers

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Noah - looks like he's up to sumthin'...

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blending the families...

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The Kiss

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Dancing

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Handsome boys...

Fine young men
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The Bride and Groom

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The Rings

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A sweet kiss from my prince...

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Monday, September 6, 2010

Goodbyes

This week I had two goodbyes to deal with that have my heart rather heavy. First, I had to say goodbye to Lindsey Grandits, a beautiful sister that I met and worked with at Real Life Church in Roseville, MN. She won her 4 year battle with cancer and went home to be with our Savior last Wednesday. Her life and legacy will live on and her family is a testimony of that. Such wonderful, real people who are not afraid to grieve, but also show such amazing courage and strength as they rely on Jesus to walk the grief with them. Prayers continue for Bruce, her brave and loyal husband, the Volin family and the Grandits family. I wish I could be there to grieve with you. Alas, the miles may keep us apart physically, but my spirit and heart is with you all. I love and admire you all so deeply.

Not only do I grieve for her biological family, but her church family. I still miss the people of RLC dearly. In all my life, I never felt a part of something so completely as I did there. Those people embraced my family when we first came to RLC, and then stood by me and acted as my "Aaron"...keeping my arms up when I had no strength on my own through my divorce. They were the hands and feet of Christ for me and my boys. I've been away now for 2 years and still feel as though I am a member of Real Life Church. If I could have packed them all up with me and brought them to Ohio, I would have in a heartbeat. RLC was the single hardest thing for me to leave in MN. I'm sure the Grandits and the Volins are benefiting from that love and support now.

The second goodbye is actually harder and hit me in ways I did not expect. Lindsey may be gone here, but I will see her again. We rejoice in that hope we have in Christ. This week, a dear friend whom I've loved and admired deeply went through with a very bad and wrong decision and divorced her husband. It was not a biblical divorce and it reopens wounds of betrayal I felt with Rob - and she didn't divorce me. That has surprised me. That I could be affected so deeply by her choice. I weep for her husband who loved her with every fiber of his being, and her children who are very confused right now. I weep for her - the deception she has embraced and the woman I once knew as doing right above all else and so full of wisdom. Saddest part is that she justified her decision by saying that "divorce is not the unpardonable sin, so it's ok and will be better for everyone." She honestly still believes she is walking rightly.

I know God can forgive...but can God ever fully restore a person who willfully chooses outside His plan for their "happiness" to the glorious plan He had intended for them? I want ALL God has for me. I want to hear His sweet voice telling me I did well and was good and faithful to Him. I don't want to disappoint Him. He is much more important to me than any temporary situations, feelings, discomfort.

The legacy she is leaving her children...one of question. I know her eldest daughter is wrestling with her own faith. How can I love God and love my mother who openly has sinned at the same time? If I love God, do I have to reject my mom? If I love her, does that mean I am excusing what she did? I am reminded that the Word says it is better to have a millstone hung around your neck and be drowned than to cause a little one to stumble. She has the blood of three on her hands now.

I still love her. But I've lost a great deal of respect and honor I had towards her. I'm disappointed. She stood by me through my own divorce, so eloquently and wisely pointing out Rob's deception... then somehow, she herself swallowed it hook, line, and sinker. And the worst deception is when you don't believe you are deceived, but believe you have finally "found the truth". Only Christ can penetrate that lie. And my experience so far suggests that it is the lie that God turns the disobedient over to in His Word. Allowing them to be so convinced of their deception, that they no longer have the ability to seek truth. Will their souls be saved? I hope so. Or will they be some of those people who tell God "but we did all of these things in Your name, Lord!" and He tells them "sorry. You never really knew ME."

I now what legacy I want to leave...one that points ALL glory to Him. If my children come to know Christ as savior, and lead their families to Him, then I have been blessed, indeed.

I've reflected a lot lately on the 13 years I spent in MN. I think the main lesson I've learned is this: people are sorely disappointing. Do not put your faith in them. Do not lift them up too high or honor them too much or give them too much respect as leaders and authorities in your life. Be very selective. And always...keep your eyes on Christ first and foremost. For even those you think you know and you trust the most, can have their hearts darkened and fall away. Don't get me wrong...I'm not being pessimistic. I still have many dear friends and have many more good stories than bad ones. I just found out that I'm a little too willing to give trust and honor and elevate people and I need to be wiser about it. I've been burned by leadership, fellow ministers, friends, and even my spouse. And I never expected it out of any of them.

Lindsey is at home. The longer I am here, the less like home it feels. And I can't wait to dance with her and Jesus and leave this strange, painful place behind. Maranatha, Lord Jesus.